The Magic of a Mustang and a Mastercraftsman

Every year my husband competes in the Mustang Heritage Foundation’s annual Ft Worth Supreme Extreme Mustang Makeover. It’s an incredible event where trainers take wild never been haltered mustangs and have around 100 days to turn them into ride-able functioning horses. There is something magical about the fantasy of taming a mustang it’s been written about in books for years. Mustangs are an unknown, an unknown entity of unknown pedigree, mentality, and ability. Some become wonderful companions forming a stronger bond at times than regular domestic horses and others become talented performance horses and many are testing in the upper levels of dressage, performing in specialty rodeo acts, and holding their own in Stock Horse events. Last year I threw in and participated and ended up keeping my mare known by everyone on my FB and at the local roping pen as Eleanor. Yes I named her after the car in Gone in 60 seconds which is a movie I can quote by heart along with Tombstone and the Friday Movies. I caught a whole lot of flack for entering this event by professional trainers I deal with but I had watched my husband’s past 3 makeovers and was itching to give it a try. Having kept my mare I use her just like the quarter horses we own, People eye her with a mix of curiosity and suspicion and some amusement but at regular show’s VERY few people have anything to say to me about her that don’t already know us.

At this year’s mustang makeover my husband’s horse was a little snorty on the ground which kept him from being a finals contender in spite of how nice he is under saddle. During the non-qualifying horse demonstrations a young man approached my husband about his horse. Right away my husband could tell the young man was unique. He asked him lots of questions about his mustang, Rambling Man. My husband knowing his mustang needed to go on to a home where he would have a steady job told the young man he was still kinda wild and went on to point out the horses in the arena that were gentler than the one he trained and visited with him for quite a while.

Later on we spotted the young man at the trade show running a booth where he makes the most amazing 3D wooden puzzles. We stopped to visit with him a bit. He was very excited and proud as he told us all about his work. I watched a few people scurry past eyeing the puzzles but not bothering to stop. The young mans name is Gregory and we learned that he has Autism but earned his high school degree and is making a business out of these amazing puzzles (did I mention they’re hard?) and because I compare everything to horses I couldn’t help but think how much Gregory is like these mustangs. Everyday equestrian society doesn’t consider them normal horses. The majority of the world often is uncomfortable with people with disabilities but Gregory’s accomplishments and the puzzles he makes are exceptional just as the mustangs that continue out into the world to touch people are.

 We felt very blessed to have met Gregory who is obviously a shining example of how someone with a disability can overcome the odd’s.  I bought a puzzle of a rearing Mustang which is all of 10 pieces and took me 30 minutes to put back together when I got it home. I know I will use it to remind our daughter that she can do anything if she puts her mind to it. I want to encourage my readers to share this blog on their own and on their FB pages and with Christmas right around the corner go visit Gregory’s website and order a gift for someone. His website is http://www.gregorysgifts.com

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BREAKING NEWS… Ray Rice is NOT a man!

Once upon a time not long ago I was standing in my favorite fast food restaurant. That wonderful place known to all as Whataburger. Inline in front of me I witnessed a disturbing scene. A family, mom and dad in their late 30s, a daughter around 7 or 8, stepped up to order. The husband ordered for everyone and when the mother went to correct him about what she wanted he shoved his hand in her face and told her to shut up. To which the little girl, who was clinging to her daddys shorts, giggled and sneered at her mom. The dad went onto run the mother down right there infront of god and everyone. The little girl giggling the whole way. She was clearly under her daddy’s spell and is clearly a candidate for the next victim of men like Ray Rice.

I am appalled at the delayed proper decision made by the NFL and Baltimore Ravens over the domestic violence video of Ray Rice. It’s a terrible world we are raising our daughters in, to think that nobody will stand up for them. I firmly believe without this second video there would have never been a proper punishment handed out. All sports organizations are coming up short in their punishment of legitimately criminal activities among players and personnel. The message they send is contributing to all that is wrong with the world. At the same time I am proud of the public backlash that finally forced the hand of the commissioner and his constituents. Society has to stand up for something when the almighty dollar is the only way to make these organizations hold someone accountable.

Young men and women look up to these athletes but they don’t realize is these ”role models” are not MEN. Ray Rice is not a man, nor is anyone else who abuses a woman, child, or animal in anyway. I’m talking from the man knocking his wife around, to the man that ignores his children, to the man who fights dogs, to the man whipping his head horse in the roping pen because he missed. None of them are a man. They’re a dumbass among other names but dumbass really does sum it all up. Ray Rice himself is not a man, he’s not a man for striking her, he’s not a man for allowing himself to marry her after he struck her. A real man would protect her from himself, he would have never struck her in the first place and he damn sure wouldn’t put her through it again. One can only speculate what the argument was about but the end result is the same.

I think back to that man in Whataburger. I’d stop going to Whataburger for a year on a bet that he probably watched the Ray Rice video on ESPN and had some snide comment in Ray Rice’s favor. His daughter doesn’t have a chance and it’s tragic.

Abuse is NO joke, mental or physical one is just as bad as the other. I’ve seen the strongest women crumble to abuse, women I never dreamed would put up with it. I’ve had a small moment in a relationship that was headed that direction. I stayed longer than I should have trying to make it work but in the end I left before I could justify being the star character in the Gunpowder and Lead video. The warning signs were there from the beginning it started with simply by habitually being made fun of infront of everyone. My point is Ladies if he makes you feel small in anyway and it’s not just your hormones and that time of the month, it only gets worse. His bank account, great dance moves, charming personality, or even his multiple gold buckles you like to brag to your friends about are never going to be worth your pride, dignity, and self esteem. You are never alone no matter what he tells you.

I was holding my own daughter that day in Whataburger. She’s is far to young to understand the significance of what we witnessed but there will come a day I will have to explain to her on the ride home how being treated like that is not OK. So for all the women out there in this kind of situation. You ain’t with a MAN and you should be. God is very specific about how a husband an wife should treat each other. Anything less is not acceptable. Even if its just  you don’t have children of your own, think of the little girl who might be watching somewhere who might not tell her mom what she saw. Do you really want her to think it’s ok to be with anyone less than a man?

The Horses that raise Horsewomen

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There is a special breed of horse, the one that will always have our heart

They come in every shape and size and they can play every part

Pretending you were Charmayne James and Scamper, Hauling down the rodeo road

Or an Elegant Dressage Team in a makeshift arena, Competing for Olympic Gold.

A wild Comanche princess roaming the woods on her trusted wild mustang steed

The first woman to head at the NFR when you got the call for Vegas, he was the horse you’d need.

When times got rough growing up, he knew who at the mean kids were

But when the rodeo came to town and they all wanted a ride, he suddenly made you cool and popular

How many times you sat up late at night watching him win checks with dad or mom

And later he kept you out of trouble late at night because he needed you when a party was going on.

Yes this is a special horse, the one who is there to make us the horse woman we will become.

No matter where we go or what we do we would always saddle him again, if we had to pick just one.



In Memory of a great horse – Jips Leo Sugar Bars 1987 – 2014

 

You make your own luck!

5 ways you can create your own luck. Food for thought after watching a whole lot of eye rolling this weekend at other peoples success.

Number 1. Always remember life ain’t fair. Lady luck is like playing dodgeball blind folded. Totally random.

Number 2 . Shut up listen and learn. From everyone! You might think you have it all figured out but nobody does and everyone is constantly evolving as the world and particularly the world of barrel racing is constantly evolving. People create their own opportunities because someone in the position to give them one noticed they were willing to learn.

3 . Your own jealousy will beat you every time. I’ve been guilty of it in the past we all have. But focusing to much on one thing or person and 10 other people will get ahead of you.

4. Luck is WORK….. the winningest trainers I know are the hardest working they create their own luck. I’m not talking one person with a great horse I’m talking those people who make multiple great horses every year. A lot of people are given great opportunities every day and they aren’t willing to work hard enough to make it pay off.

5 . Follow the golden rule! In case they’ve banned that from school too with prayer “Treat others as you want to be treated.” It doesn’t always work but it weeds out the people in your life who don’t appreciate it leaving you with positive people willing to support each other.

Clay O’Brien Cooper just had a great article on roping is what we do not who we are. Every person I know who’s happiness is dictated by their immediate success is a miserable person every where else. I’ve been there it SUCKS.

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5 ways you can create your own luck. Food for thought after watching a whole lot of eye rolling this weekend at other peoples success.

Number 1. Always remember life ain’t fair. Lady luck is like playing dodgeball blind folded. Totally random.

Number 2 . Shut up listen and learn. From everyone! You might think you have it all figured out but nobody does and everyone is constantly evolving as the world and particularly the world of barrel racing is constantly evolving. People create their own opportunities because someone in the position to give them one noticed they were willing to learn.

3 . Your own jealousy will beat you every time. I’ve been guilty of it in the past we all have. But focusing to much on one thing or person and 10 other people will get ahead of you.

4. Luck is WORK….. the winningest trainers I know are the hardest working they create their own luck. I’m not talking one person with a great horse I’m talking those people who make multiple great horses every year. A lot of people are given great opportunities every day and they aren’t willing to work hard enough to make it pay off.

5 . Follow the golden rule! In case they’ve banned that from school too with prayer “Treat others as you want to be treated.” It doesn’t always work but it weeds out the people in your life who don’t appreciate it leaving you with positive people willing to support each other.

Clay O’Brien Cooper just had a great article on roping is what we do not who we are. Every person I know who’s happiness is dictated by their immediate success is a miserable person every where else. I’ve been there it SUCKS.

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